What is important in a friendship?
Summer is over, the days are getting shorter and leaves crunch underneath my boots. It smells of autumn. {Insert more literary autumn descriptions}
What does this all mean? It means back to school. It means I am not lying at the beach and getting sunburned, I am not following my parents through countless cathedrals and eating exotic food. I am sleeping in my own bed and letting the daily routine take me over. I can only escape it rarely and that is when I am with my friends (outside of school).
Two of my friends came over yesterday and I went shopping with another friend for a birthday present today. They were two very different days because today I spent time with one of my best friends.
Am I saying you need a best friend? No. Is it good to have a best friend? Of course. But what is more important, is that you don't only have one friend. This means that you are dependent on that friend and most people rather seek independence as much as possible. Sometimes there may be a phase in life where you don't have many friends but that's okay. My motto is here ‘better less and close than many and shallow’. But it feels good to have many friends. It means you're flexible. If you really want to meet up with someone you can ask more than one or two people. It also means (I know, I'm overusing ‘mean’) that you have different relationships with different people. (Obviously, because everybody is different.) With that one friend you possibly share the same taste in music or you have a hobby in common or with another one you have lots of inside jokes ... the list goes on and on. But for me that one person who I can talk to is most important. With somebody I can talk to there is a certain depth in the relationship. I have that one friend with whom I can talk about anything. We are different (again, obviously) but we have a lot in common, we share views and like listening to each other.
Everybody has different values but I think that good conversations and discussions top the list. Because if you can tell your friend anything you trust her or him. And trust is one of the most important foundations in friendship.
What does this all mean? It means back to school. It means I am not lying at the beach and getting sunburned, I am not following my parents through countless cathedrals and eating exotic food. I am sleeping in my own bed and letting the daily routine take me over. I can only escape it rarely and that is when I am with my friends (outside of school).
Two of my friends came over yesterday and I went shopping with another friend for a birthday present today. They were two very different days because today I spent time with one of my best friends.
Am I saying you need a best friend? No. Is it good to have a best friend? Of course. But what is more important, is that you don't only have one friend. This means that you are dependent on that friend and most people rather seek independence as much as possible. Sometimes there may be a phase in life where you don't have many friends but that's okay. My motto is here ‘better less and close than many and shallow’. But it feels good to have many friends. It means you're flexible. If you really want to meet up with someone you can ask more than one or two people. It also means (I know, I'm overusing ‘mean’) that you have different relationships with different people. (Obviously, because everybody is different.) With that one friend you possibly share the same taste in music or you have a hobby in common or with another one you have lots of inside jokes ... the list goes on and on. But for me that one person who I can talk to is most important. With somebody I can talk to there is a certain depth in the relationship. I have that one friend with whom I can talk about anything. We are different (again, obviously) but we have a lot in common, we share views and like listening to each other.
Everybody has different values but I think that good conversations and discussions top the list. Because if you can tell your friend anything you trust her or him. And trust is one of the most important foundations in friendship.
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